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6 tips to control the anger of the displaced

Although it may be difficult, it is he is Possible to manage displaced anger. Next time you feel anger building up, try:

1. Get away from the situation
2. Find a healthy way to deal with your anger
3. Relax
4. Call a friend or family member
5. Put yourself in their shoes
6. Back to talk quietly
7. Visit a therapist

walk away

While it may be tempting to try to correct the situation after a tantrum, it is best to walk away. Talking to someone in the heat of the moment is not productive and may exacerbate the situation, especially if you were wrong and you just flared up in anger.

Find a healthy way to deal with your anger

Find a healthy way to express your anger or channel it through other less self-destructive habits, be it hitting a pillow, taking boxing lessons, drawing, etc. Release the steam and blow it up.

Relax

After you leave, it is necessary to relax. Do whatever relaxes you – take a short walk, sit outside in the sun, breathe deeply, meditateOr do yoga. Relaxing after a bout of angry displacement can be key to moving forward and understanding the situation.

Call a friend or family member

Once you are relaxed, it may help to call a friend or family member to talk about the situation. It may help your loved one see things from the other person’s point of view, especially if they know you’re struggling and trying to change.

Put yourself in their shoes

Oftentimes, it pays to try to put yourself in the shoes of the receiving end. Ask yourself:

• Did they deserve your anger?
• Were they in the wrong place at the wrong time?
• Did they have a bad day and accidentally fire you?
• Was your anger at them justified?

Return to the conversation calmly and clearly

At this point, you’re hopefully calm and clear, and it’s okay to get back into the conversation. Perhaps you want to apologize to them for your anger and explain that you were wrong and they shouldn’t be the actual recipient of your frustration.

Visit a therapist

If these situations occur frequently, a therapist can help you deal with the possible causes of your displaced aggression. Once you know the reasons for your behavior, it can be much easier to identify the triggers, including thoughts or words, and avoid tantrums.

“As in other stressful situations, it is important to stay away from others towards whom anger is directed. It is very helpful to take ‘breaks’ to calm down or implement self-care techniques.”

Talkspace Therapist Minkyung Chung, MS, LMHC

Everyone experiences anger from time to time. It feels normal, and sometimes it’s justified. Like everything else in life, there is a time and place for anger. There are also appropriate and inappropriate ways to express it.

Many people get angry at their spouse or loved one when they are not the ones who have done anything wrong. However, if you notice that your anger is constantly misleading toward others, it is a good idea to seek help. Therapy can help you identify why you feel angry in the first place and then teach you how to make a plan. With the right therapist, you can learn to act appropriately with your feelings in the future.

If you are ready to deal with displaced anger and are looking for help, Talkspace is here for you. our Online therapy The platform is the perfect place for you to get effective, affordable, and comfortable treatment. When you have the right tools, you can become a more peaceful and positive person, and your misdirected anger can become a thing of your past.