There is no doubt that there is a time and place for the kitchen table, the car, or shower sex. But most people do the majority of their bones in bed. And if their bed is uncomfortable? Well, this bone will be marked by pain rather than pleasure.
Drew O’Bannon, Sex and Intimacy Expert with Emma Sleepthe manufacturer of Emma Climax HybridEmma CliMax® Hybrid, a sexual mattress created to celebrate real bodies and their intimate moments in bed. “So, if your mind is elsewhere because your back is uncomfortable on the mattress, or your body hurts, it will be difficult to stay in the moment and enjoy what you are doing.”
Here’s the thing: The mattress you have sex on is also the mattress you sleep on. (Unless, of course, you have a separate sex room, in which case, kudos!) And the quality of your sleep can also affect your life in general — including your sex life.
Shelby Harris, Psy.D.licensed clinical psychiatrist, associate professor of neurology and psychiatry at Albert Einstein College of Medicine And Sleepopolis Director of Sleep Health, explains: Lack of sleep can lead to an increased risk of cardiovascular disease and diabetes, and can also cause problems with mood regulation, mental health, and more. “Lack of sleep can also lead to irritability, stress, and anxiety which can lead to conflicts in your relationships that make sexual intercourse impossible or unattractive,” she says. In other words, you (don’t) fall asleep and lose (in sex).
So, when it comes to your mattress, sex and sleep experts alike say it’s worth investing in a quality pick. “Spend what you can afford within your budget, but don’t skimp on that luxury, as you’ll be spending a lot of time on it—after all, we spend an average third of our lives sleeping,” says Wendy Troxell, Ph.D., senior behavioral scientist. , Certified Behavioral Sleep Medicine Specialist, and author of Sharing the Wraps: Every Couple’s Guide to Better Sleep.