It is never easy to lose someone you care about. Whether grief is a partner, family member, friend, or even a public figure, grief can be devastating, especially during an emotionally challenging time.
at 8The tenth In September, the world lost Her Majesty the Queen, the longest-reigning monarch in the history of the United Kingdom. Many people on social media and the press have expressed their surprise at how upset they are about the death of Queen Elizabeth II.
Grief varies from person to person, and there is no right or wrong way to deal with it. Most people would agree that dealing with loss can take a toll on your mental health, as sadness, anger, loneliness, and hopelessness are common feelings people experience during the grieving process. These feelings can vary in intensity, but for some people, they can be overwhelming.
In some cases, sadness may lead to a state of depression. Study by Clayton (1990) It found that 40% of participants experienced a major depressive episode a month after being widowed. Fortunately, the study showed that depression caused by sadness decreased over time, and after one year, only 15% of participants met the criteria for severe depression.
In the end, most people can accept the loss of a loved one and start living a normal life again. The admission process varies from person to person; Some people may take longer to get there than others. Here are some tips that can help with the grieving process that is backed by science:
- Supporting people going through the grieving process
Feeling sad alone can be a major challenge for most people. Zisuk and others (1990) It found that people who deal with grief alone were more likely to suffer from severe and relatively severe anxiety.
by search Parks (1998)Spending time with deceased loved ones can help everyone cope. Whether it’s sharing stories or listening to your loved one’s favorite music, these small efforts can make a big difference for some. The added benefit is also that you make yourself feel better by helping others.
Parks explains that “we can often reassure them of the normal state of grief, explain its symptoms, and show our behavior and attitudes that it is permissible to express grief. If we feel like crying at times like these, there is no harm in showing it. Bereaved people may need reassurance that they won’t go crazy if they collapse, that the frightening symptoms of anxiety and stress are not signs of a fatal illness, and that they don’t let the side down if they pull off for a while. usual tasks.
- Seek professional help
Although it may be difficult to admit, if you are struggling to get over your grief, you should seek help from a professional. This support can come from therapists, helplines like Samaritans, or even dedicated support groups.
according to American Psychological AssociationPsychotherapy is effective for many mental health and behavioral problems. The average effects of psychotherapy are more important than the effects of some medical treatments.
- Don’t feel guilty
Grief affects us all differently. Although it may seem that others may be able to progress faster or slower than you, grieving can be a particularly individual process. Lee et al. (2019) It found that higher levels of guilt were associated with complex grief, with these symptoms persisting for more than two years after death.
It may be normal to feel guilty, but it is best to remember that the loss you suffered is not your fault. If feelings of sadness and pain begin to fade, this does not mean that you no longer care. You are allowed to start living your life again without feeling that you no longer care about the person you lost.
Death is the last stage in life and is often surrounded by specific cultural rituals to help people express their grief during mourning. Culturally unique mourning rituals and practices can range from specific pre-funeral events to public celebrations of a person’s life. according to Kagawa Singer (1998)the ritual “provides a sense of security and cohesion as well as emotional, social, and physical resources to navigate this ultimate journey with integrity and peace of mind.”
The grieving process can be challenging, so allowing yourself the time and grace to heal will ultimately benefit you.